I am a mom. As much as I'm a wife, I'm a mom.
I got married at 20 years old and gave birth to Judah at 21, just one month before my twenty-second birthday.
At the time I found out I was pregnant Eric and I had been married only seven months and those seven months had been difficult.
I've never regretted getting pregnant so soon or giving birth to Judah. Quite the opposite, actually. I've always considered becoming parents something that solidified our marriage. Not only were we two people trying to figure out life and marriage, but now we were a family. We were the parents of this precious baby and our relationship would always be a critical foundation in his life and the process of him becoming a man. During difficult times in our marriage, where I might have given up (and there have been moments were I've wanted to), I've trudged on. So much more than that, we've blossomed. Knowing that we're not only a couple, but a family, has given me a sense of purpose in clinging to my marriage vows.
Eric and I have grown up together. We married young and were selfish and immature. We've changed a lot, we've struggled, we've celebrated and along the way we've had four kids.
You've probably heard the quote, "The best way for a wife to love her children is to love their father" (or, vice versa). To love Eric is to love my children and to love my children is to love Eric and to figure out how to do that well, well, I'm still figuring that out. Sometimes loving Eric is natural and easy and simple and sometimes I show love to Eric to teach my children how to love.
I often think about what my children's marriages and lives will be like. While living out our marriage Eric and I are setting a foundation of patterns and habits and beliefs that our children will bring into their own marriages. I hope and dream and, most of all, pray for them and their somedays every single day.
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