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I am a mom. As much as I'm a wife, I'm a mom.
I got married at 20 years old and gave birth to Judah at 21, just one month before my twenty-second birthday.
At the time I found out I was pregnant Eric and I had been married only seven months and those seven months had been difficult.
I've never regretted getting pregnant so soon or giving birth to Judah. Quite the opposite, actually. I've always considered becoming parents something that solidified our marriage. Not only were we two people trying to figure out life and marriage, but now we were a family. We were the parents of this precious baby and our relationship would always be a critical foundation in his life and the process of him becoming a man. During difficult times in our marriage, where I might have given up (and there have been moments were I've wanted to), I've trudged on. So much more than that, we've blossomed. Knowing that we're not only a couple, but a family, has given me a sense of purpose in clinging to my marriage vows.
Eric and I have grown up together. We married young and were selfish and immature. We've changed a lot, we've struggled, we've celebrated and along the way we've had four kids.
You've probably heard the quote, "The best way for a wife to love her children is to love their father" (or, vice versa). To love Eric is to love my children and to love my children is to love Eric and to figure out how to do that well, well, I'm still figuring that out. Sometimes loving Eric is natural and easy and simple and sometimes I show love to Eric to teach my children how to love.
I often think about what my children's marriages and lives will be like. While living out our marriage Eric and I are setting a foundation of patterns and habits and beliefs that our children will bring into their own marriages. I hope and dream and, most of all, pray for them and their somedays every single day.
Don't forget to read Courtney and Gina's posts for today. We also want to invite you to share your thoughts on Parenting and Marriage. Remember, this is a vague topic and open to interpretation. You don't have to have kids. You could write about infertility, planning for kids in the future, etc..
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I love this post :) Our marriage and timeline is very similar :) Got married at 22, pregnant 7 months later... and then three kids in three years after :) the more the merrier!
ReplyDeleteLove this quote "The best way for a wife to love her children is to love their father" ...how have I never heard it before!?
Have a great day with your kiddos!!!
i loved this post! my husband and i only knew each other three months before we eloped (at 21). we never planned on having children, but less than a year later we found out i was pregnant. it really threw our 'plans' for a loop. but i feel so fortunate things happened the way they did. i really believe this was how things were supposed to be.
ReplyDeleteI always love your insight, as you have experienced so much of life already, despite your youthfulness. I agree fully that the patterns and habits you show your children in your marriage will be mirrored by them later in life. And, if those patterns and habits are negative, they will have their work cut out for them trying to "break the cycle" when they get married. I speak from experience. ;)
ReplyDeleteI didn't realize your sons name is Judah. My oldest son's name is Judah as well :)
ReplyDeleteYou write some great posts! I love reading your blog!
http://judahsmommy.blogspot.com
Your post totally brought tears to my eyes Mo! I remember when I first met you, you were pregnant with Judah - that seems like forever ago! Now you have four beautiful children and a blossoming life, which makes me so happy for you the entire Fairchild fam.
ReplyDeleteThe other day, Jarred and I were trying to think of young parents that we would aspire to be like. You and Eric were on the top of our list. Thank you for being such an inspirational mama!
Xoxo,
Mel
P.S. I'm still trying to think about what I'm going to write on this topic, since we don't have kids yet. I'l come up with something and link up later.
Lovely post Morgan. I struggle with balance in my own marriage. It seems I am much more Mommy than I am wife and this pains me. I want to be the wife I know I am as well as the mother!
ReplyDeleteI love this series that you ladies are doing and the honesty. I think we can learn from each other and encourage one another when we see that we're not alone in the challenges of marriage!
ReplyDeleteWhat a unique experience getting married so young and having your first babe so young. I was 20 when I had my girl. I love how you have endured and like last week admitted the hardships but you haven't given up although at times wanted too. I love how you showed us here that to love Eric is to love your kids and vise versa, sooo BEAUTIFUL morgan! Thank you for being an example of Christ's love to ALL of us!
ReplyDeleteThank you for writing this (and the other posts in this series). I'm still getting the hang of this mama thing, and parenting definitely adds a new dimension to marriage even when you've been married for several years when little ones come along. Thanks for sharing!
ReplyDeleteIt's essential to recognize how essential really like really is to God, as confirmed by Jesus' terms in the four gospel records in the New Testimony and by documents throughout that selection of documents.
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