Thursday, April 05, 2007

New Found Freedom

I've mentioned before that Judah is now sleeping in his "big boy bed." What this big boy bed consists of is his crib with one side taken off. Don't worry, it's made to do that. It's a 3 in 1 crib, which converts into a toddler bed, which converts into a twin size headboard and footboard. It had little pieces that go on the sides, so it's not just a blunt end, but nice and rounded.

Sound asleep 4/5/07

Sleeping close up 4/5/07

Since moving into the big boy bed, Judah has some new found freedom and he just doesn't know what to do with it. Judah has always been such an amazing sleeper. As a baby we would lay him in his crib, he might fuss for a few minutes, but then he'd go to sleep. As a toddler we'd lay him down, he'd talk and sing, and then quickly be fast asleep. All the sudden, with bars no longer around him, he is anxious to do get up and play. Like a man just released from jail. Or, a dog who escapes out of the yard.

One thing I like to do is lay down with him. When you lay with him (which I learned from my mother-in-law and my mom, by the way) he falls asleep fast. Really, really fast. It was less than a minute today. But, is that teaching him horrible habits? Because we have to lay with him each and every time we want him to fall asleep. That drives Eric crazy. But, the flip side is not laying with him. And, when you don't lay with him he doesn't go to sleep. He'll play and play and completely skip his naps (we've done that several times). Or, at night, he'll play and play for hours until it's after 10pm and we finally lay down with him. Who knows how long he'd stay up if we didn't give in.

You see, that's the problem. We'll lay down with him at the beginning, get frustrated because he won't fall asleep and get up. Then, he'll play and we'll get frustrated he's not asleep and go back and lay down with him. If there's one thing I'm consistent about it's my inconsistency. I honestly don't know what to do. I keep thinking if he was in a regular twin bed or toddler bed and not just his crib he'd sleep better. If he was in a room he couldn't get out of (his room is technically a den, with a folding door, so we can't just lock him in it. We've tried and he can escape every method) he'd sleep better. What to do?

Judah taking a picture of Papa taking a picture of Samuel. 4/4/07

And, Samuel's sleeping...oh my. I know they're both great sleepers, but I'm just being really inconsistent. Sometimes I'll let Samuel cry it out. Sometimes I'll nurse him to sleep. Sometimes I'll let him cry, not be able to stand it and go and get him up and nurse him. I guess this blog is my confession time. If I was to read someone else writing this I'd be like, "It's so simple. Just be more consistent!" And, one more excuse I use, that I'll wait until we move. Should I wait? Should I get them sleeping good now? Should I just let Judah skip naps and stay up late until he learns to stay in his bed? Have you done this before? What worked for you?

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Today, in the middle of trying to get Judah down for a nap on his own, I went in his bedroom to check on him. He wasn't in his bed. He wasn't in his bedroom playing. Although, the closet light was on. I opened the door and found him sitting in the corner. Funny boy! Oh yeah, and I also forgot to mention how much STUFF he wants in his bed now. Today he has his regular crib sheet, his new Wiggles twin sheets, an afghan someone made for us for our wedding, the A's blanket my dad got for him, 4 pillows from the livingroom, and his new (adorable!) Pottery Barn quilt that my mom got for him.

Silly boy in his closet during naptime 4/5/07

10 comments:

  1. Lexie has always slept well but I have had different behavior issues in the past that I used marble jars to help with. You could pick a reward for him and he would have to earn it by filling up the jar with marbles. Everytime he stays in bed he gets a marble towards his reward but as soon as he gets out he loses a marble. Once again as you already mentioned the key is consitency. Of course I really don't know a parent who doesn't have an issue with that!

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  2. Hi M--since consistency is a tool, at certain stages it's needed and at other stages flexibility is necessary.
    Here, it really does sound like consistency should be used. I never took the step of lying down with my daughter, simply because I didn't want that to be the way she learned to fall asleep.
    When I switched her crib to a bed, I decided to stand next to the head of the bed and watch her eyes. Once they have closed fully, I quietly leave the room. It takes anywhere from 5-10 minutes.
    If she moves around, trying to self stimulate or tries to look up, etc. I gently push her down and say, it's nap time.
    I also prepare her ahead of time to let her know that in say, 5 minutes she will be going in for her nap.

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  3. We bought a toddler bed for Lucas today. He didn't seem to quite want to stay in bed ... he wanted his crib instead! Any tips for making the transition? He did enjoy lying in bed and having storytime with Daddy, though! :) It was cute!

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  4. for me it was more important for elliana to learn to fall asleep on her own than to actually get a nap those first few weeks after the transition to a toddler bed. so there were some days she didnt' nap at all, and just played. i would open up her door, put her back in bed, kisses and prayers and shut the door. i kept doing it every single time, nothing changed, until she "got it". that mommy isn't letting me out until i sleep, or that its nappy time, not play time (i would say that as i put her in bed). like i said, we have our good days and bad days like everyone, but it was best for us to teach her that she can fall asleep on her own. you can do it morgan, its hard to watch them not sleep and have to deal with a cranky child later. just find a routine that works for you guys and stick to it girl! you can do it!

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  5. One thing that helped when Mattie does not want to nap is just letting her nap every other day for a week, she goes back and forth from every day to every other day. Skipping a day helps a lot (not more for her though or we risk major meltdowns)though the next day and they go to bed easy that night(I just try to make it a mellow day if she did not nap). As far as getting them to sleep through the night and not nurse I would just give Mattie less and less time on the boob. I probably knocked a minute or two off every four or five days until she was not really hungry (she was 11 months for the weaning)and it was just habit then I would go in and just sit with her until she was okay with that and move away a little more every night until I was out of the room. Then when we moved (she was 20 months) she need some help again. So we let her cry for like 5 minutes and then go and calm her and then leave. The first night she fought it for a hour, second night a half hour, third night 10 minutes, fourth night quite. She still has trouble every now and then but she is good for the most part. I read that book the No Cry Sleep Solution. I have them for baby and toddler if you want them. I am done with them and they are just collecting dust. They were really helpful. I am against just letting them cry it out. I think it is bad for them because they get all worked up and then crash because they cry so hard they have nothing left. I tried it and it brook my heart and I will never do it again (just my opinion though). Hope that helps and let me know if you want the books, I am serious about them needing a home to be useful in :o)

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  6. See I'm way different lol We co-sleep and when they moved out of our bed, we lay down with them until they sleep. As they get older we "wean" them off that though. My two eldest has been going to sleep on their own, without ever having to CIO at ages 3 and 5. When little Zander isn't nursing anymore, I'll put him in bed with his brothers and I'm pretty sure he will be more than happy to share their beds.
    But to answer your question. Do what works for your family. Just keep it consistent lol

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  7. no idea what to tell ya... but there is always duc tape to get him to stay in bed hehehehe...

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  8. I know what Id be doing for a little break and us mopthers need a little break without the day
    Id be lieing with him. I think its common for some toddlers to need a little company when they go to sleep. When I was training to be a early childhood teacher and was on placements we sometimes had to sit with the children when they were having their afternoon nap.

    Any yep you have to be consistent with kids.

    One of my nephews hordes things in his bed LOL

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  9. We have the exact same bed. It's already been through one child's conversion. Then we put the bed back together for baby boy #2. It's wonderful to see how they react to their new found freedom!

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