When Eric and I first got married I was messy (like disgustingly, pig-sty dirty) and Eric was clean (incredibly, analy clean), so in the past 3 and a half years of marriage we are learning to compromise. I'm getting better at keeping the house tidy and Eric (although he hasn't gotten any messier) does nag me less.
After having Judah, taking care of a baby and keeping the house clean was difficult. It was very, very difficult after I got pregnant with Samuel, was exhausted, and then still had to take care of Judah. That's when we decided to start the "special duty" method. Basically, we each have assigned jobs and everything else we share. Eric's job is the dishes. He washes them and puts them away. Since moving Eric's job has gotten much easier and only involves rinsing off dishes and loading/unloading the dishwasher. Oh yeah, he also keeps the kitchen clean- the floors and wiping down the oven and counters.
I have two special duties: laundry and cleaning the bathroom. Cleaning the bathroom is a fairly easy job, as long as I have time to do it. The actual cleaning is easy, but it's hard to find time when everyone is alseep and/or out of my way. Since Ellie has been watching Judah on Mondays it's the perfect day to do it. My other job, laundry, is the extremely difficult job. Since we have to do it in the laundry room I have to either do it when they're both asleep or carry 1 or 2 babies with me. Or, I can do it at night when Eric is home. Then I have to fold it and put it away. I also have to make sure we have a stock of quarters. The difficult part? It is neverending. Seriously. Never freaking ending. Samuel and I have to wear at least 2 outfits a day due to spit-up, Eric has work clothes and regular clothes, burp cloths, blankets, pajamas, towels. If anyone would like to pay for a laundry service I would gladly take it.
Other than the laundry, we're doing great. We are busy with all of the stuff we do in life: work, play dates, Barnes & Noble, cell group, friends, etc.. Samuel is a roly-poly. He rolls all over the livingroom, can get to a toy he wants, he is so strong and doing things a lot earlier than Judah. Probably because he has a big brother to keep up with. Judah is talking more and more everyday. I can pretty much understand what is is saying 99% of the time. He's so smart- he remembers people's names and is not shy to go up and say "hi" or "good day." We have some men working on the apartment above us, so he loves to talk to them and look at their work vans. They are both adorable, perfect boys...but, you already know that!