Friday, August 04, 2006

Seriously, Get over it!

Ok, maybe I'm secretly a hippy. After having a baby this new side of me came out that I never knew existed. After reading a book about how Amish women have their babies I decided to go to a midwife to have mine delivered. I also decided I wanted my birth to be drug-free. At the birthing classes through my midwives Eric and I learned about waterbirths. Judah was delivered underwater and drug-free. Although I planned to have a waterbirth with Samuel we didn't make it in time, but his birth was also drug-free. For my next baby I really hope we own a house because (I know it sounds crazy), but I would LOVE to have a homebirth. I wouldn't have to worry about making it to the hospital, having nurses wake me up all night, and I would be in my own home.

Before Judah was born I also knew I would breastfeed and I wanted to do it for at least a year. I wanted to breastfeed because I had read about how healthy it is: all the vitamins, immunities, decreases ear infections, increases iq, and helps mom lose weight. A couple of my friends were unable to breastfeed, so I wasn't one of the "you MUST breastfeed" nazi types. But, I knew that breastfeeding was definitely for me!

After Judah was born and I actually started breastfeeding I would have near-panic attacks when I had to breastfeed in public. When Judah was 3 weeks old we took him to the night service at church for the first time. He woke up and was hungry, but I was hoping he could wait until the service was over to eat. He started crying, so I got out my blanket and ATTEMPTED to feed him while he continued to cry. My pastor heard Judah (as everyone in the sanctuary did) and said "Judah is going to be a preacher" and, of course, the whole church turned around to look at us. I freaked out and told Eric I was never going to church again. Well, that obviously didn't happen, but I did continue to FREAK OUT everytime I had to feed Judah in public. It was bad, I am not exaggerating!

I knew that my anxiety was not good for Judah or for me. I feel bad now about making him cry, go hungry, or just knowing how anxious I was. So, before having Samuel I came up with a plan. I would use a nursing cover (made by my incredibly talented friend Jenna). This nursing cover is kind of like an apron. It has a tie that goes around your neck, so it can't fall down and the baby can't pull it down. And, my favorite part is that it has boning, so you can see your baby and make sure they are positioned correctly. Then, I decided I would nurse my baby whenever he was hungry and if this "bothered" someone they could just get over it. Obviously, you can't see anything and my baby is hungry for crying outloud! I just remember that I need to be more concerned with my baby than everyone else.

So, when I read this article is REALLY bothered me! How can someone be offended by a picture of a breastfeeding baby on BABYTALK magazine!?!? I'm surprised how many times we've had to turn the tv off because of sexual content (we don't even have cable!). And, people are offended at this? Ridiculous, truly ridiculous.

10 comments:

Emily said...

I think that it is really cool that you want to have a home birth. Why can't you do it at your apartment? I wish I could do that but I gotta have a c-section for the next one (yikes!).

laura said...

"Everyone is saying that breastfeeding is best for baby but there is so little support for it in public," Moran said.

Morgan, you know my opinion on just about everything and it is just SO disappointing that people react this way to a picture that is, in my opinion, tasteful and beautiful. Would I want to expose my husband to a sexual or poronograhpic picture? Of course, the answer is no. I understand being careful about such things, but...COME ON! Everyone goes on and one about breastfeeding these days...accept the reality that is breastfeeding! Also, I love your cover-up and if someone is offended by use breatsfeeding while coered up...well, that's just crazy. You are the best mother ever and I hope to one day be the kind of mom you are. I love you, and Judah and Samuel (and Eric, too!)

laura said...

oops..there were several typos in my last post..sorry. My bad.

Chas said...

You probably know already that I'm very conservative when it comes to breastfeeding, but even I was suprised when I found out so many people were opposed to the cover of this magazine. I am a subscriber and I didn't think a thing about it when I saw the cover. My husband is even more conservative than me and he didn't even care. I mean, it's a parenting magazine for pete's sake...you'd think most parents would be fine with it. It really is disappointing.

Shannon said...

if someone can't deal with seeing part of a boob... then they shouldn't watch tv... come on... those people that wrote in need to pull the broom stick out of their butts!!

Jenna said...

thanks for the plug. i'm glad you enjoy the nursing cover and it relieved some anxiety for you. honestly, when i breastfed elliana i felt the same way. i can't wait to use it on our next baby2 whenever that is. people need to differentiate between sexual content and nutrition. sad but true, there are all kinds of people out there. you go girl. keep on hootermama!

girl from florida said...

I about died laughing when I read this post... I'd been thinking of posting this all weekend while I was visiting my parents. I posted and linked you a few times. So, so, so true!!!!

jspam said...

That's America for ya.

Zandra said...

Hi, my name is Zandra...I happened upon your blog today and I love it! I am a Christian mommy of two girls and I too gave birth drug-free! With my second (now 4 months) I had the guts, despite all the negative feedback, to have her at home. It was simply amazing...the most beautiful experience I have had!

Heidi said...

Well, I am a few months delayed in posting a comment on this one, but this topic is very close to my heart...for no other reason than I just have a strong opinion about it. (I am a paediatric nurse, and used to be a public health nurse in the parenting program). I just had a debate with my sister about this, who just gave birth a week ago. She said that mothers should leave to breastfeed, because it might offend someone. I said if it offends someone, too bad. Breastfeeding is NOT sexual, and if it makes the teenage boys in church gawk, then maybe they need to be exposed to it MORE so they will learn. That's my opinion!!