There is no handbook on how to be married. When you get your marriage licnse they don't hand you some information, say follow xyz, and then you'll be on your way to wedded bliss. In my unscientific guess I'd say 99% of marriage are NOT great. They are good, ok, or horrible. Most marriage probably fall into the "good" category. The "sure we get along, we do fun things together, we like to watch movies, and sometimes we talk about our day" category. Yuck...
Tonight Eric & I went through the second chapter of the Marriage Encounter book. We are getting together with our pastor to go through it. It's really meant to be a weekend "retreat" (encounter) for couples, but for now we're the only ones going through it. Hopefully soon we will do a marriage encounter.
Anyway, we are covering so much amazing stuff. Eric and I don't just have an "ok" or "good" marriage. We have an amazing marriage. I'm so glad to be married to Eric. I'm so glad that we are bestfriends and can talk about anything, but still have passion in our marriage. At the end Pastor Scott had us affirm eachother. Eric said to me "I miss you when I'm not with you." That's what love is...you can spend all your time with someone and when you're away from them you want to be with them again. You can't get enough of eachother.
I was 20 when we got married and Er was 23. Now we're 22 and 25. A lot of old friends say to me, "isn't weird that you're married?" or "isn't it weird that you have a baby?" My answer: no. I feel incredibly blessed to have such an amazing family at such a young age. I know most girls my age are wondering where their Mr. Right is. I've found him!!!
The fullness of the blessing of God comes when we're in relationship with Him and in a marriage relationship. Proverbs 18:22 says "He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord."
So, our time tonight with Pastor Scott was great and we're already looking forward to meeting with him again. There's always more to learn when it comes to marriage. More about the other person and just more in general...and that's what makes it so exciting!